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Mary Jane Stowell

1938 - 2018

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Thursday

April

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4:00 pm - 7:00 pm

Thursday, April 5, 2018

Michael E. Brown Funeral Services

2333 Fenner Road

Cazenovia, New York, United States

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Friday

April

Funeral Services

11:00 am

Friday, April 6, 2018

Michael E. Brown Funeral Services

2333 Fenner Road

Cazenovia, New York, United States

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CAVAC P.O. Box 56 Cazenovia, New York 13035

Celebration of Life Gathering

A Celebration of Mim's life will be held on Friday, April 6 at 1 p.m. at the American Legion Post #88 on Mill Street in Cazenovia.

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Stacy Gagnon posted a condolence

Saturday, April 7, 2018

A Family Tribute To Our Mother The meaning of being a mother is virtually endless. A mother is a protector, disciplinarian and friend. A mother is a selfless, loving human who must sacrifice many of their wants and needs for the wants and needs of their children. A mother works hard to make sure their child is equipped with the knowledge, skills and abilities to make it as a competent human being. Mom was all of that and more…. Dad often worked out of town. On the hard weeks, he’d come home on the weekends. On the good weeks he’d come home very late each night. .Dad earned the money but Mom was left at home with the 5 of us at the very least. Mom was all of 5’3” but was as fierce as a grizzly bear Mama when it came to her kids. She actually almost shot my Dad once. Dad was working and Mom was left home with the 3 oldest. Dad had finished and came back early (wee hours of the morning). Mom heard a noise and was prepared to protect her children. She stood there at the top of the stairs with her loaded shotgun. Dad finally answered her after she yelled that someone had better answer her or she would blow their head off! She taught us that great courage can come in a small package and that family was ALWAYS worth fighting for! Mom handled the groundings, punishments and the many phone calls and trips to the school on behalf of one of us (some more than others) but she rarely yelled or even raised her voice. She told me once that the secret to getting kids to listen was to talk real low. That way they have to be quiet to hear what you are saying. And if that didn’t work-“Don’t make me tell your Dad when he gets home”! She taught us that discipline is born of love and a necessary part of raising kids. She was a truly selfless woman. She would always put herself last. The last to make her plate at dinner, the last to get new clothes. She and my father not only made a home for the 5 of us but also for the countless friends, relatives and the many kids that lived with us. She treated them all as her own. They received the same rules, speeches, groundings, meals and love that we did. It wasn’t until I was much older did I realize that not everyone had houses brimming with children. She taught us compassion and love for your fellow man! Mom was a very intellectual woman. When she was a teenager she would try out many kinds of churches. Just to see what they were all about. She was a great student and went on to do accounting and book keeping for several places, even after computer automation. She taught herself to use a computer from the first ones with a floppy disk to the most recent laptops. Technology didn’t intimidate her at all. She taught us that you are never too old to stop learning, that there is always more to learn. Mom was a natural healer. She was compassionate and composed in even the most critical situations. As a young boy Greg has been playing with gun powder. It blew up in his face! He came into the house and proclaimed. “Mom, look what I have done”! She never gasped or flinched or cried but went right to work tending to his wounds before taking to the doctor. After disobeying the doctor’s orders, following her gut and bandaging the wound the way she saw fit-Greg’s face bores no sign of that incident. The doctor later asked what she had done and was amazed at his recovery. Later her and my Dad joined CAVAC. Very quickly she rose to the status of medic. She was known for being cool, calm and collected-she could get an IV on the toughest of patients, on the first try, in the back of a bumpy ambulance. She turned around and taught lifesaving skills to many of the new volunteers, firemen and daycare centers. There are people alive in this town because of Mom. She taught us that panicking is never helpful in a crisis. She taught us that caring, helping and healing someone is one of the highest forms of selflessness and love. Mom was always very active. In school, while Dad focused mostly on boxing, Mom played among other things field hockey and softball-she was still playing softball well into her 60’s as a pitcher for the woman’s slow pitch league. She was by far the hardest pitcher to hit off of. She practiced rarely-found a style. A high arc that would drop off the side at the last minute. Such a wonderful memory of being able to catch for my Mom and play on a team with her. She enjoyed fishing. It probably started as another way to keep up with her brothers but it became a lifelong hobby. We’d go on camping or fishing trips and Mom always caught the most and the biggest fish. The fancy lures or bait-didn’t matter, all she needed was a hook and a worm. I spent many afternoons as a child fishing with my Mom. She say grab your pole and we’d dig a few worms from the compost and make our way along the creek. She played cards, trivia games, board games you name it. But she never LET you win. She thought that earning the win made it much more satisfying. She taught us how to be competitive, active and that there was more to life than work. Mom was a great gardener. She had a large garden every year. We would eat the majority of our meals from the garden during the summer. What we didn’t eat she canned. She somehow found the time to can cases of pickles and chili sauce. There is no better smell than the kitchen on a day when chili sauce was being made! Just like her mother she grew and canned enough to give away. She always made people feel like they were doing her a favor by taking some vegetables or pickles home….cause she just had too many. She taught us to love and appreciate the earth, to reap what you sew, the joy of the anticipation and satisfaction of providing for yourself and that there’s is always enough to share. Mom was a wonderful cook. Mom made the satisfying meals, pie, cakes, cookies, doughnuts and salads. Her macaroni and potatoe salad were a staple at every family picnic. We always had extra people living with us, friends over etc. Somehow Mom managed to always stretch it enough to feed everyone! With the most special meals saved for Sunday. She would roast a chicken or a roast beef with all of the fixings including some kind of dessert. Dinner time was special-everyone came together to eat and talk about their day. The food brought us to the table She taught us how to cook, and family time was special and that a meal was a way to bring people together. Lastly, I like to say how grateful I am to be raised by a strong woman. She allowed her children to believe they could do anything! She broke all the stereotypes. We girls were taught to lay blocks, cut firewood and run machines like the boys. The boys learned how to cook, bake and sew on a button. She cared less about gender than making sure all of her children would grow up to be self-reliant, productive members of society. So…..Mom was by definition a “Mother” but that definition falls far short of describing OUR Mom! "A mother works hard to make sure their child is equipped with the knowledge, skills and abilities to make it as a competent human being.” I look around at the family that her and my Dad created I don’t feel so lost. I see the lessons and abilities she taught us come to life every day. There are pieces of her in each of us. I would say she succeeded! -Stacy J. Gagnon

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Stacy Gagnon posted a condolence

Saturday, April 7, 2018

Could I Have This Dance One day while out walking, the Lord had stopped to see A brand new place in heaven, built just recently. He smiled ear to ear, his heart bursting with white light At his beautiful creation he’d worked on day and night. A special place prepared for a favorite of his own. A more perfect place on earth the man had never known. It had everything he’d dreamed of, every detail accounted for Right down to the custom-made hardwood dance-floor. As the Lord made his way around the place his eyes grew sad and wide, For he spotted his beloved child sitting off to the side. This handsome man was strong and he was rugged and he was wise He had a kind heart, a gentle hand and a twinkle in his eye. The Lord asked him, “Gary, I know you love to dance, but you sit here, why”? He said “You see Lord, I cannot dance just yet without my wife”, For I promised her this dance for the rest of my life. She was my first and last partner, she is the other half me. We fit together with no beginning or end, I am the lock and she is the key. With her I was graceful, the steps came with ease. Our hearts kept the rhythm, kept the time with each beat. So I will wait here for her until we next meet. But I have a favor to ask said the man to the Lord. Could you check on her for me, the wife I adored? The Lord peeked in the room, he’d found his lost lamb. Surrounded by family, all holding her hands. He grew sad at the sight of his child suffering and so weak. He knelt to kiss her head and caress her soft cheek. Mary he said, I can see that you’re in pain. Your back aches, your chest hurts and your legs are now lame. The Lord said I am here, I can take you home with me. She said, I can’t, my babies need me, don’t you see? I can’t bear to leave them here so all alone. The lord said, they are not babies, they are full grown. Each one is a testament to the wonderful job that you’ve done. There are pieces of you left in each and every one. The Lord said, do not worry for them, for they will be ok You’ve built for them this family to lean on each day. Mary gently nodded, while this indeed was true. She whispered, “I cannot leave just yet, there is something I must do”. I need to say good-bye and tell each one “I Love You”. I simply will not leave until my task here is through. She gathered all he energy, her courage and her fight She waited for each one as they came throughout the night. After the last one said goodbye and left, the room now quiet and dim. She saw him at the foot of the bed, she reached out her hand to him. The Lord said, I brought someone with me to take you on your way. He couldn’t wait another minute, he’s missed you every day. Gary took her hand and said “I wondered what was taking you so long” “Come now”, he said, “they’re playing our favorite song”. -Stacy J. Gagnon

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Rest in peace dear friend. You may have left this earth, but you will never leave my heart. I’m sure you have all the angels in heaven laughing, because that’s what you do.

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Rick and Linda Gaut posted a condolence

Friday, April 6, 2018

Sending our thoughts and prayers to the Stowell family once again. We are so sorry to hear this news. We had a death in our family as well or we would have come to pay our respect. Keeping you all in our prayers during this difficult time. Sincerely Rick & Linda Gaut

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Jennifer and Rich Starowesky posted a condolence

Saturday, March 31, 2018

So sorry for the Stowell family's loss. It's terrible to lose both parents in a short time but at least they're together again. Prayers to the entire family.

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Joshua weismore posted a condolence

Saturday, March 31, 2018

Sorry for the families loss

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Delia cook guldy posted a condolence

Saturday, March 31, 2018

Sorry for your loss was one of your neighbor on linckland St in Cazenovia

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Lee anne miller posted a condolence

Saturday, March 31, 2018

We love you and will never ever forget how you took care of our mom, an indication of how loving and kind your mother must have been. Praying for you dear Sarah and your family

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